Thursday, August 14, 2008

True Love

My sister just finished reading "Breaking Dawn" (out of obligation more than curiosity, since her teenage daughter read it) and called me yesterday to discuss it. She said the theme of the book was sex and passion = love, which launched us into a discussion about true love and what it really is. And each of us was able to define it in one sentence.

Sentence 1: True love is your husband cleaning up the vomit when one of your kids pukes in the middle of the night.

Sentence 2: True love is when your husband willingly helps you go to the bathroom after you've had major surgery.

You might be laughing, but I honestly think these are two very accurate descriptions of what love is. It seems you always hear that love is the romance and the flowers, the candlelight dinners and kisses, and in the case of "Breaking Dawn", sex, sex, and more sex. And I fully agree that love can and should include these things. But if your husband is busting his buns going to work for the family, and all you do is complain about the fact that he never sends you flowers, then you are missing the point. Every time he mows the lawn or takes the trash out for you, he is telling you he loves you. Flowers or not.

Love is service and sacrifice. Honestly, nothing says I love you like changing a poopy diaper.

8 comments:

The Wolford Pack (Jen) said...

I love reading your posts so much...especially this one! I'm surprised to hear that this "good" book series I've been hearing so much about defines love in such a way. Hmm....at first I was excited that my 12-year-old sister had finally found something clean but maybe I am mistaken?

mean aunt said...

Amen sister! :)

Rizley Family said...

Come on Bonnie, you know you secretly LOVE Twilight ;)

McConkie Family said...

Whatever! It's all about the sex! Don't you know that Marshall has satiny smoothy skin ?

Evil HR Lady said...

Sue--TMI!

Bonnie said...

Aaaahhhh! Sue, now I have to claw my eyeballs out.

McConkie Family said...

My question is if Bella and Edward are having sex all the time, who is raising the super fast growing baby? Great parenting there!

Oliver said...

Wow --- too much information from your family. My comment:

Love is doing that which you really don't want to do because you know the other person doesn't want to either.