According to a new survey, 1 in 10 women would refuse a marriage proposal if they didn't like the engagement ring. This confirms what I have always suspected: women are stupid.
Ha! Okay, not all women are stupid. But I really hate it when they act like selfish spoiled brats.
"Oh darling, I love you so much, but unless you are willing to go into extreme debt so I can show off to all of my friends, I won't marry you."
What in the world...?
When David and I were first thinking about tying the knot we were poor college students whose diet consisted mainly of Pasta-roni and grape Kool-Aid. I told him I wanted a cubic zirconia and a washer and dryer. Instead he used his tax return to buy me a beautiful diamond ring (isn't he a cute little accountant?). Is it small? Yes. Is it perfect? Yes.
You know what made it perfect? The man who gave it to me. He could have fashioned a ring out of aluminum foil and I would have treasured it. Even if he didn't get down on bended knee to give it to me.
But according to the same survey, 1 in 5 women were disappointed with the way their future hubby proposed. The reasons were all over the board: He didn't do the one-knee thing, the proposal wasn't "special" enough, he didn't ask her father if he could ride off into the sunset with her, the ring wasn't big enough... 13% of these women were so disappointed by the lack of spectacular proposal that they wanted to cry.
You know what advice I would give to their future husbands? Run. Far away.
I understand that the events surrounding a marriage are something girls like to dream about from the time they discover a pillowcase makes a great wedding veil. There is nothing wrong with having dreams. But there is something wrong if your dreams are causing you to be constantly disappointed by the reality of the man who loves you.
So, adjust your expectations. Appreciate what you have. And if there is something that is incredibly important to you, tell your man about it. (If I could get women to understand one thing about men it would be this: THEY DO NOT READ MINDS).
If the perfect proposal is important to you, tell him. If you want input on your engagement ring, tell him. If you want him to ask your father for your hand in marriage, tell him. You are not allowed to be disappointed if you have not told him what you want! And as for a giant rock, if you think he should go into debt or spend all of his life savings to buy you a ring, you need to quit being so self-centered. It's not about the ring, it's about the promise that goes with it. Jewelry means nothing.
But the man you marry means everything.